Humpdity, hump, hump, hump

Today I wore the ugliest pants to work and I didn't care. Not one bit. In part, because even after two months no one really knows who I am, and partly because I am tucked away in an office without windows, hidden away from the my colleauges lest they get the cooties. In case you wanted more detail: the cotton pants are beige, ironed frantically, so that they have two creases down the front. They are not at all flattering around the mid-section, where they bunch, or in the rear, where they bag. These pants are too short even for the brown suede flats (old lady shoes) I was wearing. I cared less about the pants today than I did my hair yesterday and that was one bad hair day.

But let's get down to what really matters ... guest blogger Andrea McCall has dating issues. Andrea? ...

BACK IN MAY, my friend Valerie posted my list of the man I would like to have in my life.  Well, here it is, almost four months later, and I am still single. [Editor's note: through no fault of the lovely (and talented) Valerie Bean]

I was initially attempting to meet people on a very popular dating site, got bored with that, took myself off, and then reposted in June. I am not sure what response most women get, but I think that I do pretty well. It is not completely uncommon for someone new to e-mail me, probably about two to three times per week. From those e-mails, I respond to all, have become e-mail pen pals with some and actually had facial contact with a large number. Unfortunately, I haven't felt that I want to pursue a second date with very many. All have been very nice guys, but the lack of any chemistry has been a challenge.

1. One guy was 36, divorced, no vehicle, minimum wage job, and living with his parents. Most of that I could deal with because I don't want to seem to shallow. The comment that made me a little nervous was, "So do you own your house or have a mortgage?" He did proceed to call me, whenever he needed a ride to have coffee with his friends. He did tell me that his wife and his last girlfriend left him for friends of his, so maybe I should have gone on another coffee date with him and his friends.

2. Another guy was 36, on disability for a bad back, didn't drive and lived in the country. Again, I was willing to see past all of that, but the lack of front teeth kind of threw me. I know that is shallow, but I just couldn't get past it.

3. Finally, I had a good date with a guy that had a good job, I was attracted to him physically and he had a great sense of humour. He took me for a boat ride one beautiful afternoon and we seemed to have a nice time together. I told him I would call him later in the week to see if he was free for the weekend, so I called on Wednesday. He was very nice, but I basically got the brush off.  He told me that he hoped that he hadn't led me on, but he really wasn't looking for a relationship right now. Translation: no chemistry for him. Karma bit me in the butt...

I continue to leave my profile posted on the dating site, I am still getting e-mails, and I will continue to chat and meet with the guys that are brave enough to contact me. 

Wish me luck!

Comments

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it was not nice to know that your dates were as awful as that. WTF? He called you when he needed a ride? Sans choppers? I do hope that it was just a matter of being between dental surgery appointments. That's a show-stopper, for most gals I know.

A guy takes you on a boat ride for a date, but doesn't want a relationship? Uh, that just doesn't add up, for me. If you don't want a relationship, you do the standard dinner-and-a-movie date.

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Oh, they couldn't possibly be as ugly as the ones I was wearing! lol. Then again ... I can't offer absolute assurances!

Ask a friend for pants feedback before your next date.

[Andrea McCall]

Maybe I am wearing ugly pants...